Argument between families?

  Once again I dished out my laptop and signing in to my blog with a sensitive or common topic among families. ARGUMENTS. Well, you can't avoid heated and angry arguments in a family.To a certain extend, it can happen like everyday, weeks or months. Depending on the families itself. I myself also sometimes had "small" or sometimes heated conflicts happening within my siblings or parents.  However, after some of my  observations, this is what I came up with.

  Families involved with arguments because firstly, they have different opinions or mindsets regarding a certain issue. For example, you didn't want to cut your hair but your parents forced you because they find it more neater and better looking whereas you find it short and ugly looking. With both parties having different thinking and opinions, there is difficulty in getting things done. It may often end up with parties having any disheartened feelings. 

 Since it is known there is different opinions between each other, both do not attempt to give in to each other as each of them is thinking that their opinion is right. They do not try to understand each other's opinions or try to think why are they feeling this way Now let's think about this, as a child or teenager whenever your naughty, your parents may beat or scold you and often it ended up with you crying or ranting about it right? Because we failed to understand why our parents do this to us when we're naughty and our parents failed to understand our feelings and thinking as a child and vice-versa. 

  If only we try to just give in to the other by just stop saying hurtful words or keeping quiet when you know that the arguments will never end, perhaps the arguments might end up less violent or more peaceful. But I'm not saying that we should keep quiet when we're being scolded or beaten! Of course you have the rights to speak for yourself but to a certain extend. Like for e.g, you speak in a nicer tone on how you are feeling this way. 

  However some might say that it is difficult to control your words and actions when you are in a anger, but it really depends on your willpower, self-discipline and how sincerely you wanted to settle the disputes. It is also said that as the certain difference age gap between people are more difficult to get along as their way of methods and thinking are different. We can't try to change this fact but only to overcome it. If there is different opinions between each other, talk it out. If you or anyone has anger management problems, learn to control better on it. 

  You also can't always think the fault lies within the other party but not within you. This mindset can harm you, with you not accepting your mistakes and not able to improve yourself better as a person. Sometimes try to understand and care for your families more often. We might tend to neglect them due to work and friends. As the saying goes, " blood is thicker than water." Kinship are also important and main priorities in life too. It will always stick with you for life, especially when you have no friends or anyone to rely on. 

  Today onward, try to understand your family members better, by understanding and knowing how they feel, make them feel that they still exist in you. Small simple actions like, calling back home when you're outside for long hours, having dinner with them and etc. :)

  Okay, that's such a long essay I had written for today! Probably the first essay and lifestyle article in my blog? HAHA. Enjoy and comment about what you think! 

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Just on the surface? Or just...

  " IT'S FRIDAY!'' and it may be time to relax and have fun. But for me? Maybe depressed i guessed. Never felt so disappointed in myself before. I know you might be thinking if it was my exam results, yeah you're right. Perhaps in some teachers or people eyes, they see me as an hardworking girl, who is very studious. But who ever knows the background information? Perhaps it is not really good too. It makes you felt as if that you studied so hard and cannot score well enough too. WELL THAT'S NOT CASE OF MINE. Alright, wait i meant actually it is about the same. LOL. So what if I seemed to be hardworking? Does that mean people who seemed to be "hardworking" can't score well enough aren't smart enough?
 
  People just tend to see things on the surface and judged about it. There's nothing you can do. But who likes the feeling of  being "accused"? Though I didn't fail any of my subjects, it is not good enough. The worse feeling is that when you studied and put in more effort in a certain subject or topic, it turns out what you had not expected. I really don't know how to describe it.

  It is really right that you should not study the night or days before exams. Though you may know it, your actions may tend to be contradictory of your thinking. In this society, you got to be competitive and be better than others, because that's the way of survival. I know i might sound to egoistic or etc, but what that is life. Fight for your own survival. This industry of life is too competitive.
 
  I really learnt my lessons and every single years throughout my school life, I ended up breaking my words. Since people had the impression of me being very '"hardworking", I should made it as if I am. If not that will be letting myself down.

  So sometimes things are not that seems on the surface.. There is so much meaning behind it..
 

 

It's such a long time..

It's such a long time..................... THAT I'M BACK! Wow, It's been months since I had came back. And of course, this an update! AND nevertheless my life right now. So much things had happened and I really don't know where to start. I guess i should start with the most recent incidents.

Today there is no school due to marking day of our End of year exams! Omg cannot believe time just passed so quickly. It's like I still remember the day of January ealier this year. In a years time, I will be taking another national exams, O levels. It's just simply shocking. In 4 years of after PSLE. I always told myself I shouldn't make another same mistake i made in primary school. So what my PSLE isn't good? I believe i can achieve it in O levels. Im gonna make good use of my December holidays. I''l make sure of that. I don't want to make anymore mistakes in life ever again. but however I know im studying for my future. But I don't know what i really wanted to be next time. I always had an fickle mind.

They say chase your dreams, do what you like. My dream is really to become a singer, a musician. However, let's be realistic. Without talent, you're not going to make it there. Besides it is so much hardships. (Im not scared of hardships, it is more like knowing that i won't make it) We always saw on TV how ordinary people from all walks of life to become a big famous and well known singers. I got to admit I didn't have any "talented" voice and nobody admires my singing because I know no one thinks i sing good enough. So why chasing a dream you know when no one thinks you're up too it. Perhaps you guys will say I lack confidence. But this is society. I think I just let things takes easy. I will just take it as a hobby but not my future career.

 As I know I only had interest in music. But I always stumped across this as I really don't know what to do after all. I researched on the courses that intuitions offered and none make me felt interested. Even i do, there is not much interest in it. I had dreams of being a lawyer and etc and it at most lasted for a year before i changed my mind again.

Recently, the course Mass communication had caught up my eye.. It's like being in media..It's quite interesting too.. I think now the most important thing is to score well for O levels and decide since I'm clueless.. And this year will be the last year to party hard with friends before the stress days comes and we will be graduate and leaving each other.. :((((

Anyway that will be it for now, will update more things soon!