Argument between families?

  Once again I dished out my laptop and signing in to my blog with a sensitive or common topic among families. ARGUMENTS. Well, you can't avoid heated and angry arguments in a family.To a certain extend, it can happen like everyday, weeks or months. Depending on the families itself. I myself also sometimes had "small" or sometimes heated conflicts happening within my siblings or parents.  However, after some of my  observations, this is what I came up with.

  Families involved with arguments because firstly, they have different opinions or mindsets regarding a certain issue. For example, you didn't want to cut your hair but your parents forced you because they find it more neater and better looking whereas you find it short and ugly looking. With both parties having different thinking and opinions, there is difficulty in getting things done. It may often end up with parties having any disheartened feelings. 

 Since it is known there is different opinions between each other, both do not attempt to give in to each other as each of them is thinking that their opinion is right. They do not try to understand each other's opinions or try to think why are they feeling this way Now let's think about this, as a child or teenager whenever your naughty, your parents may beat or scold you and often it ended up with you crying or ranting about it right? Because we failed to understand why our parents do this to us when we're naughty and our parents failed to understand our feelings and thinking as a child and vice-versa. 

  If only we try to just give in to the other by just stop saying hurtful words or keeping quiet when you know that the arguments will never end, perhaps the arguments might end up less violent or more peaceful. But I'm not saying that we should keep quiet when we're being scolded or beaten! Of course you have the rights to speak for yourself but to a certain extend. Like for e.g, you speak in a nicer tone on how you are feeling this way. 

  However some might say that it is difficult to control your words and actions when you are in a anger, but it really depends on your willpower, self-discipline and how sincerely you wanted to settle the disputes. It is also said that as the certain difference age gap between people are more difficult to get along as their way of methods and thinking are different. We can't try to change this fact but only to overcome it. If there is different opinions between each other, talk it out. If you or anyone has anger management problems, learn to control better on it. 

  You also can't always think the fault lies within the other party but not within you. This mindset can harm you, with you not accepting your mistakes and not able to improve yourself better as a person. Sometimes try to understand and care for your families more often. We might tend to neglect them due to work and friends. As the saying goes, " blood is thicker than water." Kinship are also important and main priorities in life too. It will always stick with you for life, especially when you have no friends or anyone to rely on. 

  Today onward, try to understand your family members better, by understanding and knowing how they feel, make them feel that they still exist in you. Small simple actions like, calling back home when you're outside for long hours, having dinner with them and etc. :)

  Okay, that's such a long essay I had written for today! Probably the first essay and lifestyle article in my blog? HAHA. Enjoy and comment about what you think! 

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